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Hi everyone, I would like some help on a problem please. I've been seeing this guy for about 2.5 years and I have been in love with him for the same period. Trouble is, its all secret. We have mutual friends whom he is closer to than I. He says people interfere so we'd argue and that things are good as they are - just us. The sex is amazing but we don't get to spend much time together because of my work shift patterns. He has told me he loves me as I have to him. If we see our mutual friends socially, we barely speak in case they catch on. Is this commitment phobia? Are we just f*** buddies? Can we work around this? Any suggestions greatly recieved. I don't ever want to lose him as my lover or my friend.